Today, I want to open up and share my personal journey of self-discovery and growth over the past two decades. You see, I’m a 47-year-old guy who’s had his fair share of ups and downs, and therapy has been a sporadic companion along the way. It’s been a wild ride filled with moments of creative brilliance, deep connections with others, times when I’ve expressed myself with all my heart, and those quiet moments of introspection. I’ve also learned the power of empathy, kindness, and the art of finding hope even in the darkest of times.

Over the years, I’ve discovered the incredible healing potential of creative expression. From pouring my thoughts into a journal to losing myself in the world of art therapy, I’ve found ways to give voice to those feelings that are sometimes too complex for words. Exploring my creative side has not only been therapeutic but has also catalyzed my personal growth. I don’t get to write as often as my mind allows me, but when I do, it does help.

I have always sensed more from others than I’ve ever understood about what they’re saying. I learned in my 30s that I am an empath. It’s something that still confuses me, inexplicably. I can feel love and compassion towards someone who is struggling yet want nothing to do with them while they’re hurting. It’s not just about understanding myself; it’s about connecting with others on a deeper level. Their pain is my pain. I’m still processing my own challenges; I cannot add theirs to my list.

Through years of self-reflection, I’ve become a keen observer of my own thoughts and behaviors. I’m getting better at recognizing my starting line. This self-awareness has empowered me to break free from destructive patterns and make healthier choices. Therapy has encouraged me to step back and appreciate the journey of my life. I’ve come to value mindfulness, a practice that keeps me rooted in the present moment, preventing me from getting lost in the past or overwhelmed by anxieties about the future. I continue to rebuild my foundation for my House of Thomas.

The therapeutic process has also shown me the importance of kindness, not only towards others but towards myself. Embracing self-compassion and self-care has been nothing short of transformative. It has allowed me to let go of harsh self-judgment and embrace my imperfections, leading to a healthier self-image.

Twenty years of therapy have been an incredible journey of self-discovery, growth, and transformation. Through creative expression, empathetic connections, keen observation, thoughtful reflection, acts of kindness, and the ability to find light in the darkest of times, I’ve evolved into a more resilient, compassionate, and self-aware individual.