Checkpoint: Impacting Other People’s Experience

In this moment, I cannot experience joy without terror.

It’s a beautiful afternoon here in Camas, WA. I just discovered one more beer after cleaning my fridge. I can go up to my happy place with my beer, my cell phone to listen to music, and soak up some sun. It brings me great joy to a wonderful afternoon.

Alas, my path to bliss is met with dark and terrifying obstacles. I noticed the Airbnb was booked last night. I saw them closing their doors and heard them repeatedly slamming the front door throughout the evening. Maybe they don’t know how doors work, or possibly they just want to make sure it actually closes—I can empathize with that.

My path to joy is a bit of a challenge. I have to pull down the door, pull out the legs to the ladder that leads to the attic, go into the attic to get to the crawl space, to reach the latch that opens the door, to climb the stairs onto the roof with my stuff to arrive at the roof.

What happens if the airbnb visitors see the attic is open and decide to close it?! How am I going to get out of there? Should I leave a note? Do I lean on hope that they are decent, courteous humans who recognize that the attic ladder is down and that someone … me … would be up there? That thought has paralyzed my choice into being only one answer: no, don’t do it!

I’m not looking for answers or suggestions; I’m well aware of all the options. I’m journaling to make note of my awareness of how my soul operates when I’m acutely aware that my actions can negatively impact someone else’s experience.

I am absolutely going forth, experience my happy place, soak in all the sun and joy while sippin on this beer and jammin to music. If it happens to me that I’m met with such a terrifying negative experience, I’ll figure it the fuck out.

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My recent move has been quite an experience. There are a number of things I’ve lost that I didn’t realize were so valuable to me.

Missing My Bath and Meditation Time

One of the biggest adjustments has been transitioning from taking baths to using a shower, especially with the most annoying showerhead on the planet for someone who is 6 feet 2 inches tall. I miss my Saturday after-work soak and meditation time. This shower just doesn’t cut it! There’s no way to really get comfortable right now. Maybe I’ll find something to do about it, but for now, I’m on a different mission. I need to find my Saturday after-work chill place.

My office isn’t it. My bedroom isn’t it. Damn.

Comparing the Old and New Apartments

  • Apartment 206: Big and open kitchen, with the fire alarm near the entryway—maybe 10 feet away.
  • Apartment 202: Small kitchen; the bedroom and kitchen have no way to open the windows. The fire alarm is right outside leading into the hallway, not more than 5 feet away. Damn! I swear I’m not burning the house down, but the windows are only in the office. Chill.

Finding Solace on the Rooftop

If there’s one thing I’ve identified on this “upgrade universe” path, it’s to keep looking up for the answer and not always down. I have a rooftop that I can access when the weather is kind.

This beautiful nighttime view is truly awesome to experience. I use these same colors in my “chill” command at home.

This afternoon, I went up to the roof to enjoy chicken and shrimp fried rice using my new Swiss granite skillet. The weather here is very comfortable—the sun is out, and it’s in the low to mid-70s. It’s a different perspective to be able to disconnect high above in the trees, embracing all that is. I meditated for as long as I could until I smelled and saw a yellow jacket buzzing around me. Those things scare me.

An Unsettling Encounter

After about an hour up there, I gathered my things, put my camping chair away in its cover, collected my beer can, bowl, spoon, and towel to head downstairs. As I was about to finish, I glanced down to the street level where Camasonians were walking around enjoying the downtown scenery. My eyes connected with someone who was clearly watching from below. Their gaze was squarely settled onto watching me gather my things.

In a micro-fraction of a moment, my brain exploded with what could only be described as a mental virus zip file. This moment contained the thoughts and experiences that woman had, and where her mind was headed. These were not my thoughts whatsoever. In fact, for the past hour, I had been feeling absolute joy of a different flavor. I was musing over my fear of not being able to decompress and return to my state of joy and bliss after my time in the bathtub with unlimited refills of hot water and a bottle of tequila or wine—whatever I was in the mood for that day. Absolute freedom and joy of doing what I wanted with no shame or fear of tomorrow.

In that moment, I experienced fear, concern, care, worry, attention-seeking <break> wait, what the hell is going on right now? I’m feeling happiness, absolute contentment, freedom, and peaceful joy, and your response is that?!

I felt frustration that, yet again, this connection between my eyes and my neurodivergent brain led me, even in a brief, seemingly meaningless moment between two people who had never met, to experience our first connection as this mental toxic virus.

Processing the Experience

I quickly got myself back to the floor safely, but now I’m journaling this experience to help illustrate the challenge when this kind of crap happens to me. It’s an unsettling feeling as I experience it, digest it, and recompile it to find all the meaning behind why they are the way they are. I hope to potentially find a way to create a firewall against these unwanted zip files.

Where We At? 8/27/2024

Day 4 of no answer from my parents. Faith is full. Patience is full. Love is full.

I’m encouraged with the addition of Charlie to the Air in the Middle team. This project is an incredible opportunity for all of us grow, expand our hobby interest into something we built. It’s a solid idea. We’re ready for the next phase forward, the storyboard.

The zBiotics came in. I’m experiencing hesitation. The situationship never took bite into a friendship. I have to readjust and focus on my companies needs. I will miss them all. I wish their family nothing but great success.

Seth changed the date from Thursday to Wednesday. I have a standing appointment to get my beard taken care of every other Wednesday. I adjusted my needs to accommodate his availability. He is all in with this MIL addon to his life. I don’t consider it much of a sacrifice, however the lesson learned is that if these moments become more of the standard for my life and I don’t like it, uninstall. Meanwhile, I’m looking forward to tomorrow’s adventure. We need some fun in our life.

I’m struggling with a piece of my homelab project. I need to find and hire someone that we can trust to review my 10.10.1.x network and optimize our projects network, storage, and software needs.

I stepped out of my comfort zone and went to Mesa for Taco Tuesday and a tequila flight. I was not prepared for the experience. I’m here, alive, but emotionally overwhelmed.

Gut Instincts

Today, I find myself reflecting on a budding connection that has brought joy to my life but also confusion and discomfort. Meeting someone new always brings a whirlwind of emotions, but this experience has taught me the importance of listening to my gut. I recognize that while I’m willing to do anything for love, I value my sense of self wanting to be grounded in mutual respect and cultivate a true-genuine connection.

I’ve learned that chasing someone or engaging in dynamics that feel like games is not where I find my worth. Love should be a two-way street, where both parties are invested and open. By stepping back, I’m choosing to honor my own needs and boundaries. This experience has shown me that I deserve a relationship where my efforts are reciprocated and my values respected. Moving forward, I’ll carry these lessons with me. I need to continue to trust my instincts, set clear boundaries, and seek connections that bring out the best in both of us. Today, I affirm my growth and look forward to finding a love that feels right.

Resonance of Choices

In a universe where timelines intersect like threads in a grand tapestry, I have discovered the ability to jump between these threads. Physically unchanged, my mind learned to navigate alternate realities simply by making different choices, small deviations from what was expected or routine.

I grew weary of the monotonous patterns that life presented. The same routines, the same choices, day after day. Wednesday night, a thought emerged, a desire for something different, something more. As I began to choose paths not originally intended, the world seemed to shift subtly, presenting new opportunities and challenges.

“My needs have evolved,” I thought. “I want to thrive, not just exist.” With this newfound determination, I began to embrace the offensive, seeking out opportunities that had previously been overlooked. Yet, uncertainty lingered. “How do I know if I’m in control or free-falling into a false sense of hope?”

The teachings of an old friend, An, echoed in my mind: “Same same, no good. Try it all. Live and enjoy.” These words, once heard in passing, now resonated deeply. I felt a strange fatigue, not of the body but of the soul—a tiredness that called for reflection rather than rest.

Seeking clarity, I decided to meditate, hoping to let the experiences and choices I made soak in fully. In the quiet stillness, the myriad paths I had taken and the potential futures ahead began to align. I realized that control was an illusion, but intention was not. Each choice, each jump, was a step towards understanding and growth.

As I emerged from meditation, a sense of peace settled over me. The journey was far from over, but with each decision, I was crafting a new chapter, one filled with possibilities and the wisdom of lived experiences. Now I continue to navigate the multiverse of choices, resonating with the frequency of life, knowing that the path to thriving lay in embracing the unknown and trusting the journey.

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Pearl of Wisdom

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This is a thought I had if I were ever a dad in this situation.

“Puberty Wars” have begun, creating a tense atmosphere at home. The father, my cousin, is a stoic, direct, and nurturing soul who values peace and enjoys life. My advice to him is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with the oldest child, the natural leader of the pack.

Teach this emerging young adult the importance of maintaining peace, harmony, and a calm attitude. When real problems arise, the father will undoubtedly handle them with strength and care, embodying the spirit of a teddy bear, roar included. By sharing this wisdom with the oldest child, they may come to see and understand the value of peace. Start by showing them what a good afternoon outside the house looks like, something you can experience together. Lead by example. If they begin to understand, maybe you could bring the next person along with you. What do you think? Now, they are being treated and engaged as an equal. It doesn’t have to be much now. Life is full of many experiences, and my cousin would be able to continue to support and guide them every step of the way.

Growing up involves balancing personal growth with emotional maturity. “Reaching for the stars” means letting go of the negativity that life throws at us and holds us down. The oldest child, equipped with these values, will naturally begin to pay it forward, fostering a positive atmosphere within the family.

Opportunity: Sit together and have constructive and meaningful conversations, with personal snacks for everyone. Engage.

The Cantaloupe Conundrum: Embracing My Melon-like Personality

Once upon a time, in the vast and colorful world of fruits, there lived a humble cantaloupe. Unlike the vivacious strawberries or the zesty oranges, the cantaloupe seemed to be an overlooked character in the fruit bowl of life. One might think this story is just about a fruit, but it’s actually about me and maybe, in some way, about you too.

You see, I’ve come to realize that I have the personality of a cantaloupe. Yes, you heard me right, a cantaloupe. Now before you laugh or raise an eyebrow, let me explain. Being like a cantaloupe means needing a bit of understanding, being a little awkward in how you do things, and perhaps not being the life of the food party. But it also means being unique, sweet in my own way, and full of surprising depth beneath a tough exterior.

The Outer Shell: A Tough Yet Humble Exterior

At first glance, a cantaloupe doesn’t scream excitement. Its rough, netted skin isn’t the most inviting, much like how I might appear a bit reserved or shy. I often blend into the background, not because I don’t have anything to offer, but because it takes time for my true essence to be discovered. I was a “ghost” in high school, as they say.

I’ve learned to embrace this outer shell. It’s my protective layer, allowing me to observe, listen, and understand before I reveal my true self. And just like a cantaloupe, once you get past that rough exterior, there’s a sweet, nurturing core waiting to be discovered.

The Inner Sweetness: Subtle Yet Satisfying

The cantaloupe’s flesh is sweet but not overpowering. It’s a gentle sweetness that grows on you, much like my personality. I’m not one for grand gestures or dramatic flair. Instead, I find joy in the little things, the quiet moments, and the genuine connections I make with others.

In a world that often celebrates the bold and the loud, being a cantaloupe means finding comfort in being myself. It’s about accepting that my quiet demeanor and subtle ways of showing care are just as valuable. It’s about knowing that the right people will appreciate my gentle sweetness and the depth of my character.

Seeds of Potential: Embracing Growth

Inside every cantaloupe are seeds of potential. They represent growth, new beginnings, and the possibility of change. Similarly, I carry within me the potential to grow, learn, and evolve. Every day, I strive to be a better version of myself, to embrace my quirks, and to celebrate my unique personality.

Accepting my cantaloupe-like personality means acknowledging my strengths and weaknesses. It means understanding that I may not be everyone’s favorite fruit, but that’s okay. I have my own place in the world, and I bring my own unique flavor to the mix.

A Slice of Humor: The Cantaloupe Pun

Now, no story about a cantaloupe would be complete without a little pun. After all, humor is a wonderful way to accept and celebrate our quirks. So here it is:

Why did the cantaloupe jump into the lake?

Because it wanted to be a watermelon! 🌊🍈

Alright, alright, I know it’s a bit cheesy (or should I say fruity?), but it captures the spirit of embracing who we are while having a little fun along the way.

Conclusion: Embracing the Cantaloupe Within

So, here I am, proudly embracing my cantaloupe personality. The truth is, on the inside, I’m getting finer and finer with age, but there is a point where I will ripen to rot. Just like a cantaloupe, you have to find the stem and gently press. The scent should be sweet or slightly musky; if it smells fermented, the cantaloupe has gone bad.

I cherish my joy and happiness, sharing the bounty that is my flesh and time with very few people. They know the good and appreciate the unique flavor I bring to the world. Embracing my cantaloupe personality means acknowledging my strengths and weaknesses, understanding that I may not be everyone’s favorite fruit, but that’s okay. Not every day, but once in a while, in the right setting, someone will appreciate what I have to offer.

There’s beauty in subtlety, strength in gentleness, and sweetness in simplicity. So, embrace your inner cantaloupe and let your unique personality shine in its own special way. After all, it’s the people who take the time to appreciate the true essence beneath the tough exterior who truly understand and value the depth within.

This is as much fruit as you get from me here on.

Embracing Imperfection: Navigating Destructive Thoughts with Resilience and Compassion

In the vast expanse of my life, I often find myself navigating through turbulent seas of thought, where destructive waves threaten to overturn the fragile vessel of my fragile mind. These waves, fueled by anxieties and uncertainties, can sometimes feel insurmountable, leaving me adrift in a sea of confusion and self doubt. Yet, amidst the chaos, there lies a beacon of hope, a guiding light that reminds me of my innate strength and resilience. I’m struggling to find that beacon.

For me, this journey has been one of constant introspection and evolution. As I reflect on the path I’ve traversed, I am reminded of the intricate dance between light and shadow, between triumph and tribulation. My struggle with destructive thinking has been a companion on this journey, a relentless force that often threatens to pull me under again. Yet, through it all, I have learned to embrace my imperfections and to see them not as weaknesses, but as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

At the heart of this journey lies a profound sense of self-awareness, a willingness to confront the shadows that lurk within and to shine a light on the darkest corners of my mind. It is through this process of introspection where I begin to unravel the tangled web of destructive thoughts, peeling back the layers of fear and uncertainty to reveal the resilient spirit that lies beneath. In my pursuit of growth and self-discovery, I have come to realize the importance of cultivating a sense of compassion and empathy, both for myself and for others. It is easy to become lost in the whirlwind of my own struggles, to forget that I am not alone in my journey. Yet, it is through connection and empathy that I find solace in the midst of turmoil, drawing strength from the collective wisdom and compassion of those who walk beside me.

As I continue to navigate the twists and turns of life, I am learning to embrace uncertainty and doing my best not to see it not as a harbinger of doom, but as a catalyst for growth and transformation. The fears and anxieties that once held me captive are slowly losing their grip, replaced by a sense of inner peace.

In the face of financial uncertainty and the looming specter of loss, I find solace in the knowledge that true security lies not in material wealth, but in the richness of our inner world. It’s the connections we forge, the love we share, and the strength we draw from within. It is through this lens of compassion and empathy that I am able to confront my fears and uncertainties with grace and resilience, knowing that whatever may come, I am not alone in my journey.

So, as I set sail once more into the vast expanse of the unknown, I do so with a heart full of gratitude and a spirit imbued with resilience. For in the crucible of struggle lies the seeds of transformation, and it is through my darkest moments that I discover the light that shines within me.

Magic in the Mundane: Finding Meaning Amidst Life’s Whirlwind

As I sit down to reflect on the events of this past week in our magical town, I find myself grappling with a mix of emotions and contemplations. It’s been a whirlwind of unexpected turns and profound realizations, leaving me both intrigued and slightly bewildered.

As I stand at the threshold of my 50s, I find myself embracing a profound sense of introspection and reflection. It’s a pivotal moment, marking the transition into the third chapter of my life, where the desire for substantial growth and meaningful evolution is palpable.

In this phase, I’m not seeking change for its own sake but rather a deliberate upgrade, a refinement of my existence that amplifies the richness and depth of each experience. It’s about seizing the opportunities that lie before me, guided by a newfound clarity of purpose and a resolute commitment to self-improvement.

One avenue through which I’m channeling this desire for enhancement is through my passion for cooking. Investing in the latest technology like the Google Pixel 7 Pro and Google Pixel Watch 2 signifies not just a material acquisition but a strategic step towards leveraging modern tools to elevate my culinary pursuits. The prospect of creating cooking videos for my website excites me, offering a platform to share my love for food while simultaneously honing my skills in the digital realm.

Moreover, these gadgets serve a dual purpose in my journey towards holistic well-being. The Pixel Watch, with its advanced health tracking capabilities, becomes an invaluable companion in monitoring my physical progression and optimizing my sleep patterns. It’s a proactive approach towards nurturing both body and mind, ensuring that I’m equipped to embrace each day with vitality and vigor.

This newfound sense of agency and intentionality extend beyond my culinary endeavors. Adopting intermittent fasting as a lifestyle choice speaks to a deeper commitment to self-discipline and holistic health. By restricting my eating window to between 10 am and 6 pm, I’m not only cultivating mindful eating habits but also redefining my relationship with food and nourishment. Additionally, I am going dairy and gluten-free to help my GI tract heal.

And then there’s the project—a labor of love that has been incubating since 2022, shrouded in uncertainty and untapped potential. Instead of dwelling on the uncertainties or the daunting nature of the task at hand, I’m embracing the challenge head-on, navigating the complexities with a sense of purpose and determination. It’s a testament to my newfound mindset and a departure from idle speculation towards proactive problem-solving and tangible progress.

But the real magic, it seems, lies in the shared experiences with those around me. Take my dear friend Michal, for instance. On Wednesday, her infectious smile illuminated the room, radiating a newfound energy and positivity. Her recent hair transformation served as a visible expression of this inner rejuvenation, but it was her heartfelt sharing of childhood trauma that truly struck a chord within us. As we watched the cartoon “Pigs is Pigs” through fresh eyes, we connected on a deeper level, intertwining our stories with empathy and understanding.

Jennifer, tirelessly working at the Chamber long before midnight, sparked an impromptu conversation that revealed a profound revelation about her husband, Jim. His yearning for something more resonates with the prevailing sentiments of growth and aspiration echoed throughout our town. It serves as a testament to the transformative power of witnessing the success and fulfillment of those we love, igniting a spark within us to pursue our own dreams with renewed vigor.

During a candid discussion with Jennifer, I shared the challenging decisions I’ve made to escape a toxic mindset that plagued me throughout much of my second chapter. While I’ve largely coasted through life, dealing with PTSD, many of the people I’ve encountered since moving here seem trapped in lives they dislike. Their struggles with work, relationships, parenting, and societal pressures are palpable. However, I’ve found solace in simplicity. My days follow a predictable routine. I work my shift, and then I’m free. With no constraints or prohibitions dictating my actions, my biggest dilemma often revolves around meal choices. Beyond that, I relish the freedom to simply live, indulging in whatever pursuits I desire, provided I have the means to do so.

As I walk through the streets, pondering the interconnectedness of these seemingly disparate events, I can’t help but marvel at the beauty of shared experiences and the capacity for empathy to bridge the gaps between us. Each interaction, each revelation, serves as a reminder of the collective journey we’re all embarking on, navigating the twists and turns of life together.

I’m filled with a sense of gratitude for the magic woven into the fabric of our town and the profound impact of shared stories on our journey towards growth and understanding.

Pause

There are a lot of upgrades I’m going to be making for myself throughout the year. I need to continue getting my health back to 48 and getting older. Soon I will have my kitchen setup for ketogenic and hypotoxic, gluten and dairy free for a while. My eating schedule will be from 10am until 6pm. Eating GI healthy food will be welcomed daily. On Monday and Friday I have the option for 1 meal to be off menu. Otherwise, it’s not strict when it just is.

For my website, I have a lot of things that I would like to do for this, but not right now.

I want to write my weird recipes down. Maybe with my new Google Pixel 7 Pro, I can create some cooking video’s on how to make the recipe. That’d be pretty cool to learn.

I want to take advantage of today’s AI drawing technology. I would like to leverage Instagram to make artwork and post it on my website.

I don’t have the ~$250 for the upgrade for WordPress to creative mode. Maybe I should look into other solutions that could potentially enable me to import my posts here into their eco system.